Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and ideas Alex. It just proves how complex and layered this life experience really is for all of us and thus the hands depicted in the above image I see as being interchangeable. As parents, we are not always teacher.
I, like Alex have been noticing this toing and froing between awareness vs experience. As a parent I know that I project too many fears founded from my own experience of life onto my children. Alex and I are often trying to help each other understand our perspectives in this life.
Alex is a twin with Lachy and they are soon to turn 17 years and my eldest son will soon turn 20. My children have proven to me time and time again that they are very capable human beings. In fact, they are much more forward thinkers and doers than I was at their age. I have always wanted to help others and do the right thing by everyone but at the same time I was completely immersed in my own existence with little thought of how life might look from another perspective. I see my own children very aware of where others might be coming from and seem to have a healthy level of empathy for their fellow humans.
There is a part of me that understands that Alex is right in regard to being allowed to make her own mistakes. Of course she is. On reflection. I see that I have never quite fully understood what something means without experiencing it first hand. I learned this lesson while studying a Bachelor of Education. My study certainly challenged my thinking about certain aspects relating to the education of children, but it wasn’t until I became a teacher that my understanding expanded to a whole new level. The concepts were all there but it was the experience that activated the understanding necessary for my role as teacher.
This makes me think about the level of understanding Alex will have when experience is added to what she already thinks and believes about life. A whole new level I imagine. I see that an expansion of consciousness is coming with each new generation, which is pretty exciting to me.
Alex mentioned the difficulties that accompany her awareness such as anxiety and OCD. I experienced these challenges too when I was younger but as my awareness has grown, so has my trust and faith that everything is working out exactly as it needs to for the betterment of all. The hardest aspect for me these days is this sense of knowing and not knowing in the same moment. I see that our own capacity for creation changes things so there is never any guarantee that something will work out the way you expect. Life to me feels like doing a jigsaw puzzle without first seeing the whole picture and then aspects of the picture changing depending on everyone playing a part in putting the picture together. It is not impossible and I guess the end result is much more rewarding than when you do see the whole picture first.
I see that this is where the mistakes Alex was talking about come in. We make choices that may be different from those if we had the big picture in mind. Mistakes are how we get a feel for what is right for us. Mistakes can feel like the end of the world as we know it and it is but then we create new understandings of the world until they change and in my experience this understanding is constantly changing. Therefore the very worst to come from mistakes are deeper understandings which put us on track to where it is we wish to head.
So there you have it, Alex and I are in agreeance, I understand that making mistakes is part of growth. That said, why am I so intent on keeping my children protected and in turn from growing? Interesting question, one which needs to be further explored. Until that time…
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