I have come to understand that each of us has a child within, a place within, which is vulnerable, which needs our attentive care. Think of what any child needs and you will discover the needs of your inner child. Children need supervision, care, consideration, protection, love, attention, they need exposure to fun and just being. The child within needs you, is dependent on you for so many things.
The Inner Child concept has come up for me a number of times, which is an indicator to me that this is something I need to keep working on. The first time I stumbled on this idea, I was like, ‘Wow, I get it’ and I thought about the poor little kid that had been neglected. I did a little bit of work around this and I did some forgiving of myself for not taking more care, but it wasn’t long before I was straight back into life. A little time passed and I stumbled on another article, one which I shared on my business page. Reading this article reminded me about the child within and it occurred to me that yes, I was much nicer to this child than I had been in the past but there were still areas of neglect that I needed to address.
My response was ‘Shit, I haven’t changed.’ I could see that a tendency of mine is to push, push, push. I know what I want in life and I know exactly what I want to achieve while I have the good fortune of time on my side. Being 45, I know that time goes by in a flash and I am determined, that when I die, I slide into the transition line sideways, and say ‘How did I go?’.
So to slow down and take it easy is tough. My own children are getting to the point of standing on their own and as I said, I have a vision. I guess I don’t want to get to that transition line having to face the fact that yes, I achieved all this great stuff but at the expense of my wellbeing. I think this is part of the journey. I’m sure there is a pay off.
The first part of neglect I see, is that I have been pushing too hard. I push myself to the point where my body takes over and shuts down until I give it the rest it needs. This is no way to treat the child within. It is not sustainable and only leads to burn out. Part of my dream is to give service to others and how can I do that if I have nothing left in the tank to give?
I heard myself saying to my sister-in-law the other day that my family and I need to spend more quality time together. This leads to the second point of neglect. My immediate family have been missing a key element to happiness… fun. Can you believe it? of all the things to leave out, this was it for us.
I mean, we do have fun, we stir each other up all the time and we often mess about but not often enough and certainly not on a regular basis. I think it occurred to me the other day when I was picking up one of my sons after they had spent their weekend with a friend. This friend’s family is very active and have plenty of fun. I realised (without judgement) that this is what was missing in our family.
I had a chat with my husband and I think it was obvious to him also, so we each made a commitment to spend our weekends doing things as a family. I mean, how hard can it be? we live in the Hills and which ever direction you look, there is something different to explore. This was one of the reasons we moved back to the area in the first place, so we could get back to doing things as a family.
After catching up, my sister-in-law sent a message to say they had randomly booked into a hotel and decided to go out and have a meal and a drink or two with friends. I was so happy for her, if anyone deserves to treat their inner child it is my sister-in-law. Not to say we are not all deserving but there are some people out there who give so much of themselves that it is good to see them doing nice things for themselves.
I see that the Universe is telling me that I have worked really hard for so long now, and it is time to have some fun. The good clean variety that leaves you feeling great about yourself.
Think about your own inner child. How we treat ourselves is very different to how we treat others. Think about how you would treat a child, a niece, nephew, a friend’s child. Is this in line with how you treat the child within? If not, don’t beat yourself up over it, just acknowledge and think about some small changes you can make that will help. You’ll be amazed by the results of the slightest changes.
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